We often hear this phrase bandied about "What people do at home / in their own time / whilst not on the job - is their own business". And that is true, as far as that statement goes. Something many people appear to disconnect from that statement is this:
everything we do at home, in our own time, or whilst not on the job has to have an effect outside of those times. If I play a contact sport on the weekend, wreck my knee / neck or whatever, and can't come to work on Monday because I can't move, then I have just had an impact on my employer. If I get on the turps on Friday night, get into a fist-fight and the other block breaks my jaw, or I break his and land in jail, that effects things possibly for weeks afterward - certainly days. And if I have a huge stand-up row with my "special other" that leaves me depressed / moody come Monday morning, how does that not affect me for at least all Monday, possibly the whole week (or month?).
So I'm not making any judgment over the gentleman whose actions (or inactions?) sparked this post - I wanted to speak of the thing that so many appear not to consider fully: our conduct 24/7 affects each and every part of our lives, private and professional, and we do well to remember that excesses of any sort - liqour, drugs, food - you name it, or poor / rash judgment calls - all have a flow-on affect to ALL those around us, ALL of the time. That should not make us fearful - just more considerate of others, and mindful of what we are doing - and why.
I still come back to an earlier question: WHY are people using excesses of drugs or alcohol? What is it in their lives that they are trying to escape / dull / whatever? And no, the "because they like it" does not cut it. Children don't need or even think of needing drugs or liquor to enjoy themselves - why should adults? Substance abuse (use?) is a learned habit that becomes addictive. And any addiction (other than to air, basic liquid / food / clothing / shelter) is a controlling force in our lives that shapes who we are and what we do - to a greater or lesser extent - and most non-essential addictions are unhealthy and hurtful to us and those around us. If a person claims that something is not addictive, then they should be able to easily / happily give such a thing up, because those things are just extras to life, not prerequisites - right? Right?

I speak to myself as much as any - we all have our blindspots, foibles and flaws: it's the brave person that is prepared to challenge their own internal assumptions they make about themselves, no?
